We all might have gone through several conflicts that happen in a family. All conflicts are due to some reason. The conflicts between the parents and children is one of the many conflicts that happen inside a family. There are a whole lot of misunderstandings that causes these conflicts to happen. Let’s explore these causes and the remedies for it.
God says “The main reason behind all the conflicts in the world is attachment”
Let’s explore the term ‘Attachment’ and see how this ‘attachment’ actually creates conflicts.
What is an Attachment?
Let’s take an example of a twin babies who’s one of the organ are attached to each other. Let’s say their skull are attached to each other. So, due to the attachment, the babies will feel difficult to do any work. Eating, roaming around, playing and sleeping will be an easy task for them. This will create pain for both the babies.
Now attachment is not always physically but most often it is subtle through emotions. For example, when parents are sad, it also creates us sad. When children are sad and unhappy, parents also become sad. When husband becomes sad, wife also becomes sad and vice versa. Therefore this attachment creates a lot of pain in our life, both mentally and physically. This creates the inability to change the negative vibrations to a positive one. Read More: Living a Lotus like Life
There are many types of attachment.
- Attachment to our own body
- Attachment to people
- Attachment to things (addictions)
- Attachment to our values, views and beliefs
As physical body attachment creates pain physically, in the same way mental attachment creates a havoc both physically and mentally.
Society signifies the attachment as a symbol of Love. But, actually is it practical? It is not true.
- Parents remain attached to their children and vice versa. They love each other.
- A wife remain attached to her husband and vice versa. They love each other.
Attachment is not love but Detachment is Love. We show our love to someone by remaining attached to the person. For example: always keeping someone under surveillance, calling or texting someone more often, expecting the partner to obey each other’s decisions irrespective of each other’s individual feelings and views, etc. These doings not only create a burden to both but also creates a feeling of possessiveness towards each other. These doings creates a feeling of inner suffocation in life as if he/she is inside a cage.
Gradually this attachment gradually crosses its limits and tries to put someone under pressure. This creates conflicts.
Understand the science behind this attachment
From time immemorial, humans always tried to suppress or possess someone who is weak and it has become human’s nature. People enjoy suppressing on the weak. Our mind has accepted this nature of suppressing others and therefore this suppressing nature has become everyone’s natural nature. These habits has destroyed the actual human nature of humbleness, humility, courteousness, sweetness, etc. In present time no one is ready to accept other’s feelings, emotions, values, beliefs, views etc. This creates conflicts. This attachment can create even non ending conflicts between states and countries.
Therefore, detachment is the solution to all these problems
Detachment means getting free from the cage and flying freely.
Detachment comes from the understanding and accepting everyone’s karma. This whole world is an unlimited stage where every soul plays their individual parts according to their individual understandings. Every part is correct, accurate and are played at its best. The more we remain in this understanding, the more we radiate the vibrations of love to all. For example, when parents are sad, children can radiate love and motivation to them and vice versa. When husband is unhappy, wife can radiate love and motivation to him and vice versa. When we, the soul remain detached from everyone’s parts, and acting while remaining conscious about our self’s actual parts of love, compassion, humility, humbleness, courteousness, sweetness, etc. we actually radiate love and cooperation to the one in need.
Problems of Attachment
It creates many life problems. Those are:
Attachment-
- Creates a feeling of burden.
- Increases the stress levels.
- Hampers body health.
- Doesn’t care of other’s feelings and emotions.
- Doesn’t care about right and wrong.
- Automatically engage in many many problems.
- Decreases mind’s focus and concentration levels.
- Hampers sleep cycles.
- Creates a feeling of remaining inside a cage.
- Diminishes self-motivation and inspiration to others.
Benefits of Detachment
Detachment has many benefits and most of it are very subtle.
Detachment-
- Increases our mind’s concentration and focus levels.
- Keeps our mind cool and still.
- Decreases the stress levels.
- Increases our deep sleep cycles and comfort levels.
- Keeps the self away from many problems.
- Focuses more on the self rather than on others.
- Increases love between individuals.
- Increases the level of enjoyment at every point of our life.
- Starts the inner self healing process.
- Commences the rejuvenation process of mind and body.
Conclusion:
Detachment can be seen in a tortoise. As a tortoise shrinks itself during danger, in the same way So, in detachment, each individual of a family works constructively and work for the support of the whole family and for the whole world as a whole.
Detachment has many benefits against Attachment and so let’s decide to always remain detached from the outside environment, spread the vibration of cooperation, love, compassion, humbleness, etc. and create a better and healthy world to live. Learn more: Understanding Love and Attachment
Om Shanti!
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